‘if you’re a trans guy why are you wearing a bra’
listen my dude, unsure if you know but the day I came out as trans my breasts didn’t immediately retract into my body. they continue to exist. and wearing a binder - no matter how well it fits - for hours on end day in day out becomes unbelievably uncomfortable. wearing a bra as a trans guy doesn’t make you a Bad Trans™. can we stop putting expectations on trans people to perform to the Good Trans Person Standards and being terrible to them when they don’t. other words, can people mind their own fuckin business when it comes to other people’s bodies and what they do with them lmfao
this goes for giving trans women shit for not shaving too. there are a hundred and one reasons why someone may choose not to shave or not be able to. people empower cis women for not shaving (which is perfectly fine and great) and in the same breathe shame a trans woman for not choosing to shave. don’t force a higher standard of presentation onto trans people, especially when those presentations are rooted in stale expectations of gender.
men claim to want ‘a smart woman’ until i pull up with a IQ to qualify for mensa and start questioning their opinions on politics while reading oncology medical journals at 2 a.m as a pass time.
John Carney said, “successful men date less successful women not because they want ‘women to be dumb’ but rather because they want ‘someone who prioritizes their life in a way that’s compatible with how you prioritize yours.‘” so basically men want someone who prioritizes dinner before having a professional career.
like so many women get divorced and have no idea who they are outside of being someone’s wife and frankly, it’s shocking and sad.
there’s a british study where researchers asked 121 participants about their views on intelligent women. not smart, but intelligent. and the findings showed that females with high intelligence in male/female relationships were always seen as problematic. the woman’s intellect was problematic but the man’s intellect was always viewed as ‘desirable’.
there was a time when only (white) men were allowed to go to college, now the demographic with the most degrees is (black) women. women are getting smarter and smarter, and yet men aren’t getting more supportive. [males] aren’t willing to accept second place in the “bread-winning competition” and this is one reason for the increase mid to late 30s marriages; women either settle or stay single.
ladies, you can be 4’11 and be so small and so skinny you cannot rip paper. but these men find out you have a PhD in Quantum Physics and work for Columbia’s Physics department, they only see a threat. you don’t need muscles and a 40 inch dick.
statistically, the most intelligent women are not polarizing about it, yet the majority of the male population assumes we are. they assume intelligent woman will correct them, upstage them, out-do them, and by God-forbid, make them feel worthless. and they fear this because this is how they make us feel.
stop saying you like intelligent women, when in reality you want the bare minimum to qualify for basic intelligence. what you really want is a docile, timid, meek, and easy to manipulate woman that stays home. what y’all claim to want is someone with five degrees that speaks seven languages and. there’s nothing wrong with either, but men still lie. and regardless of how intelligent, physically fit, quiet, and attractive a woman is, men will always seek after the lesser self-insured woman before honestly and truly admiring the woman he knows you are a want and not a necessity.
There’s nothing wrong with being lesser when it comes to intelligence. We really just want someone to love us wholeheartedly. We want someone to appreciate and care for us. We want someone to be faithful and honest with us. We want y’all, but y’all don’t want us.
why do we threaten you? why is it our capacity for knowledge and understanding of difficult concepts and possession of a PhD make you feel less of a man? there shouldn’t be a correlation but there is.
im cute when i’m being quiet,laughing, & looking good. but when he finds out my major and that i have a prestigious job— when he becomes aware of the extent of my knowledge he looses interest.
and let’s be clear, i’m not looking for anybody. i do not want anybody. but males need to stop being in my face and any woman’s face with that weak ass ‘you so mf cute 😍😏 tell me about yourself’– until they realize i’m the engineer leading the project and not the secretary or the intern hired specifically for coffee runs.
SAY THAT!
PREACHHHH
You attract what you give off. Stopped having this problem once I stopped surrounding myself with people who weren’t of my caliber (surrounding myself with people who were), and focused on my career.
so what exactly am i putting off? tell me.
when i was shy and meek, but still physically attractive and notably smart, i was ignored. but when i stopped giving a shit, and i guess i started speaking up— still keeping to myself and the same friend group majority of my primary education— i became the unapproachable “smart bitch”
i must not be giving off anything because in my 20 years i’ve dated no one. not casually or seriously. i get looked at sure, never anything said to. i’ve always focused on my work and myself… i just want to know what about my intellect– any woman’s intellect– makes her a threat to a man’s shitty masculinity.
I dont know you. I cant tell you what you give off. But, if you attract terrible people, you’re giving off a certain energy about yourself that you may not be aware of. This isnt to take away from a man’s toxic masculinity, but it is simply to put accountability in your hands as well.
…. how is this any different than when men derail a post where women are voicing legitimate concerns about abusive men w some “well Y'ALL need to stop fucking w aint-shit dudes” shit? men being threatened by smarter/larger earning women is not new or made up and im not seeing why this pick-me gaslighting shit on this post was necessary, women are not responsible for not somehow magically ferreting out the 2 or 3 worthwhile men in a sea of trash it absolutely IS taking away from a man’s toxic masculinity to say women should hold themselves accountable for the fact that men as a group are socialized to not view intelligent women as viable or desirable partners
there’s something really satisfying about the fact that sir arthur conan doyle was the most gullible motherfucker on the planet
sir arthur conan doyle: here is my oc, he is a super genius who solves all the mysteries using the power of deductive reasoning
also sir arthur conan doyle: i have deduced that these fairies are real as shit
sir arthur conan doyle: there’s only one way to determine if these fairies are real… i will give you girls these cameras, that i bought myself, and then i will develop the photos, so i know they haven’t been tampered with
some girls who took selfies in the woods with paper cutouts on hatpins: that seems reasonable
harry houdini, after showing his good friend how he got trickedby a con artist: so as you can see, anyone can make it seem as if they can talk to ghosts
sir arthur conan doyle: harry… i can’t believe you never told me you can talk to ghosts, for real, using actual magic
Doyle and Houdini’s relationship is the funniest thing in the entire history of the skepticism movement
Doyle was SO CONVINCED that Houdini had legit magic powers and could turn into smoke or some shit to escape things and Houdini was like “no seriously it’s a trick let me show you how it works” and Doyle was all “it hurts me that you won’t trust me with this secret”
If memory serves he eventually decided that Houdini was subconsciously magic and in denial
So today I tripped. Fell flat on my face, it was awful but ultimately harmless. My service dog, however, is trained to go get an adult if I have a seizure, and he assumed this was a seizure (were training him to do more to care for me, but we didn’t learn I had epilepsy until a year after we got him)
I went after him after I had dusten off my jeans and my ego, and I found him trying to get the attention of a very annoyed woman. She was swatting him away and telling him to go away. So I feel like I need to make this heads up
If a service dog without a person approaches you, it means the person is down and in need of help
Don’t get scared, don’t get annoyed, follow the dog! If it had been an emergency situation, I could have vomited and choked, I could have hit my head, I could have had so many things happen to me. We’re going to update his training so if the first person doesn’t cooperate, he moves on, but seriously guys. If what’s-his-face could understand that lassie wanted him to go to the well, you can figure out that a dog in a vest proclaiming it a service dog wants you to follow him
Hey everybody, if you reblogged this, please please reblog this correction. The person who trained this dog was doing it themselves in violation of service dog standards and etiquette. Please see this tweet chain for more detail. I have capped the tweets below for convenience. If you need a text version, click on the link above.
Yo there’s another post that calls bullshit on this twitter thread!
So: go to literally anywhere else to find out what service dogs are and aren’t going to do in an emergency situation!
Like. Idk. A reputable website of service dog trainers.
whenever anyone mentions that they were talking abt me I get this weird but kind of comforting feeling that I exist to a person outside of our own relationship,, like?? u talked abt me??? u thought of me when I wasn’t there????? i exist to u when I’m not around????!!!!!!?
